How long have you felt you were a victim? How long have you allowed yourself to be victimized? Was it your spouse, partner, family, friends that left you feeling victimized? Was it your boss that made you feel that way?
Today is the first step toward no longer feeling like a victim and no longer accepting that maltreatment from others who have probably become accustomed to treating you that way.
I did a little word study and found:
mistreatment dysfunctional relationships
Asking you a few questions that I am examining myself:
- Did you think it was normal behavior to be treated this way?
- To be treated like you were less than the other person?
- Did you dislike the feeling but also feel powerless in how to stop it?
- Did you try to stop it only to find you felt guilty?
- Did you somehow feel when all was said and done you deserved to be treated this way?
- Were you like myself attracted to people that mistreated you?
- Did you find people who were strong-willed were the ones you were attracted to?
- Did you find like myself they were strong in your eyes but realize that they used that against you?
Okay, so today is the day we let go of that need to be sorry for everything we say and do. Today is the day when we say no more or simply stand firm silently that this treatment is no longer allowed from anyone and especially ourselves!
Does this need to be with someone we view as strong because we feel weak or is that because we have allowed others to push their view upon us? Or was that not their view at all but our view of ourselves?
Today it’s time to break free of victimization and oppression. It is now our day of liberation. We have a choice. I will say it again. We have a choice!
Choose Victim mentality
Choose Victor mentality
There is freedom in your choice – choose self – love not self loathe.
Consider the below:
V – Voluntarily submit Read Romans 12:1-2
I – Identify our character defects – Proverbs 16:9
C – Change our mind – 2 Corinthians 5:17
T – Turn over our character defects to God James – 4:10
O – One day at a time – Matthew 6:34
R – Recovery is a process – Philippians 1:6
Y – You must choose to change – James 4:6-8
From (Celebrate Recovery Principle 5)
Go to God now and tell him where you are in this journey of no longer wanting to feel like a victim. Go to him and ask him to help you change your thoughts. To bring your thoughts into captivity one by one. To help you break the cycle.
Romans 12:2 is a place to start: Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.
Ask God to fill your mind now with his truth about who you are in Christ. You are a child of the living God. You are a co-heir to the kingdom of heaven. Think on that the next time you start to feel less. You are royal.
2Corinthians 6:18: And I will be your Father, and you will be my sons and daughters, says the LORD Almighty.” NLT
Romans 8:17: If we are his children, we are also God’s heirs. If we share in Christ’s suffering in order to share his glory, we are heirs together with him. God’s Word Translation
- Ask yourself the questions – have you felt the above, have you allowed the above?
- Make a choice – Victim or Victor?
- Read over the scriptures references and commit them to memory – jot them down on 3×5’s. That works for me and I keep them with me as I learn them – to read over and over. Post it on your wall in your room or on your fridge.
- Talk to God and ask him to renew your mind! He is your Father. Remember You Are Royal!